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EMDR Intensives vs. Weekly Therapy: What If You Gave Yourself More Time to Heal?

Because understanding what hurt you and finally moving differently are two different things.

Girl, How Long Are We Going to Keep Talking About the Same Thing?

You know the pattern. You’ve talked about it, journaled about it, prayed about it, and maybe even spent months unpacking it in therapy.

Yet somehow, the same situations still trigger you. The same doubts creep in. You’re still overthinking, overgiving, or carrying responsibilities that were never yours to begin with.

And just when you’re getting to the good stuff in therapy, opening up, or things are starting to come together, your therapist says, “Well, we’re almost out of time.” Until you come back again next week, barring any life crisis or holidays, we start again.

Sound familiar?

If I can be honest, sometimes you don’t need another week of talking around the issue. You need more time to actually work through it.

And if you’re anything like me, you appreciate getting to the heart of things. Not rushing the process, but getting intentional about what really needs your attention instead of getting lost in the background noise.

That’s where EMDR intensives come in.

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a therapy approach that helps your brain process distressing experiences so they no longer carry the same emotional intensity.

EMDR intensives give you dedicated time to work on specific experiences, beliefs, or emotional patterns without having to squeeze everything into a traditional weekly appointment. This time lets your nervous system stay in the therapeutic work without that weekly reset, life distractions, procrastination, and avoidance. It’s room to finally focus on you.

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EMDR Intensives vs. Weekly Therapy: What’s the Difference?

Weekly EMDR therapy and EMDR intensives both offer opportunities for meaningful healing. The difference is how we use our time together.

Weekly therapy gives you consistent support over time. You get to explore what’s happening in your life, build coping skills, and work through experiences at a gradual pace.

EMDR intensives offer longer, focused sessions where we intentionally set aside time for the work you’ve been wanting to do. The therapy happens in a condensed period of time, like a 3-hour block; typically, these treatments occur on a Friday or weekend. It’s an opportunity to address an old hurt, a belief that’s been holding you back, a feeling, or a trigger that keeps showing up in your life. One or two intensive sessions can match months of traditional weekly therapy.

Neither approach is better for everyone. It’s about finding what fits your life and your needs.

What If You Didn’t Have to Keep Carrying It All?

Think about the things you’ve learned to live with.

The need to be everything for everybody. The voice that tells you you’re not doing enough. The hurt you’ve tucked away because life kept moving. The triggers that catch you off guard, even when you thought you were past all of that.

Imagine creating space to work through those experiences instead of continually working around them.

Not because an intensive can magically erase your past or guarantee a faster healing journey, but because you deserve uninterrupted time to explore what’s been weighing on you.

“Sometimes what we need isn’t another thing on our schedule. It’s dedicated space to finally focus on ourselves.”

— Amanda Fludd, LCSW-R

An intensive can help you loosen the grip of old experiences, challenge beliefs you’ve carried for years, and start responding to life from a different place.

Less feeling like you’re constantly bracing for something.

More room to breathe, make choices, and show up as the woman you’re becoming.

And that is worth making time for.

So, What Actually Happens During an EMDR Intensive?

First, we’re not throwing you into hours of difficult memories and hoping for the best.

There’s intention and care behind the process.

Consultation. We start with a conversation to see whether an intensive is right for you.
Preparation. We prepare together, identify what you want to focus on, and choose a time when you can be fully present.
Your intensive. We practice grounding techniques, get comfortable with EMDR’s eye movements or other forms of bilateral stimulation, and work toward your agreed-upon goals, with breaks along the way.
Closing and next steps. We help you feel grounded, reflect on the experience, and plan your next steps.

This is your time. We honor your pace, your needs, and your readiness throughout the process.

Sometimes the Work Is Worth Taking a Chance On

“I was so scared to do it.”

— Sandra Bullock, speaking about EMDR therapy on Red Table Talk

Even Sandra Bullock has spoken about being nervous to try EMDR.

And that makes sense. The idea of revisiting difficult experiences can feel intimidating, especially when you’ve spent years figuring out how to keep going despite them.

You don’t have to have everything figured out before beginning. You just have to be open to exploring what support could look like.

And sometimes, hearing from someone who has experienced EMDR themselves makes all the difference.

“Amanda Fludd literally helped me heal. I am so grateful. It was beautiful and profound.”

— Sara Jane Wellock, Google review of Kensho Psychotherapy Services

Healing is deeply personal. No two people experience it exactly the same way, but stories like these remind us that change is possible.

Three Questions You Might Be Wondering About EMDR Intensives

1. Is an EMDR intensive worth it if I’ve already tried therapy?

It can be. Especially if you’ve gained insight into your experiences but still feel stuck in the same emotional reactions.

EMDR works differently from traditional talk therapy by helping you process distressing experiences and their emotional impact. An intensive provides a longer, focused treatment window.

It’s not a guarantee of faster results, but it may be another way to approach work you feel ready to address.

2. Can I do an EMDR intensive if I already have a therapist?

Absolutely worth exploring! You may be able to continue seeing your regular therapist while working with an EMDR clinician on a particular concern.

With your permission, we can discuss how the work fits with your existing treatment and coordinate care when appropriate.

3. What happens after an EMDR intensive?

You might feel lighter, tired, reflective, or notice emotions continuing to surface. Everyone processes differently.

That’s why we prepare before treatment, incorporate grounding during the session, and discuss aftercare and follow-up.

You won’t be expected to figure out your next steps alone.

Want to Hear More About EMDR Intensives?

Sometimes hearing a real conversation helps you decide whether something is worth exploring.

Maybe It’s Time to Make Room for You.

You’ve made room for your career, your family, your responsibilities, and everybody else’s needs.

What would it look like to give yourself that same level of intention?

I’m Amanda Fludd, LCSW-R, trauma therapist and founder of Kensho Psychotherapy Services in Lynbrook, New York.

I work with women who are tired of being held back by old experiences, familiar patterns, and the pressure to keep it all together.

Through EMDR therapy and intensives, we create space to work through what’s been weighing on you, with care, intention, and a plan that fits your needs.

We offer in-person EMDR intensives in Lynbrook, Long Island, and virtual options for eligible New York residents. Even if you are not in NY, you can fly in, and we’ll curate a weekend healing experience for you.

Not sure which format makes sense for you? That’s exactly what the consultation is for.

You don’t have to keep making peace with patterns you’re ready to change.

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Kensho Psychotherapy Services | Lynbrook, NY
Written by Amanda Fludd, LCSW-R

Individual experiences vary, and EMDR intensives are not appropriate for everyone. Treatment recommendations are based on clinical assessment, readiness, and individual needs.

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What Is Emotional Regulation? Skills and Therapy Support

Have you ever had an emotion go from 0 to 100 before you had time to figure out what was happening? Maybe you got angry and said something you didn’t mean, shut down during a difficult conversation, or felt so overwhelmed you just wanted to get away from the situation.

We all experience anger, sadness, anxiety, frustration, and other difficult emotions. The challenge isn’t having these emotions. It’s knowing what to do when they show up.

We aren’t born knowing how to manage our emotions. We learn these skills through modeling, instruction, experience, and practice. Without those skills, emotions can feel like they take over quickly, leading us to react in ways that may create more stress, affect our relationships, or leave us wishing we had handled the situation differently.

That’s where emotional regulation comes in.

So, What Is Emotional Regulation?

Simply put, emotional regulation means managing your feelings and responding in ways that are more helpful than harmful.

When emotions like anger, sadness, or anxiety show up, emotional regulation is knowing what to do with them. It can look like noticing what you’re feeling, giving yourself time and space to process it, and choosing how you want to respond.

That space can be the hardest part.

Let’s say you’re in a big argument with one of your closest friends. Your anger or frustration can go from 0 to 100 pretty quickly, and you may feel it in your body. Your energy starts rising. Your voice gets louder or even cracks a little. Your muscles tense. Maybe you cry when you’re upset. Your instinct might be to leave the situation, shut down, or react immediately.

All of this can happen fast.

Before you’ve had time to process what you’re feeling, you may say something you regret or respond in a way you didn’t intend.

When we don’t have the skills to slow that process down, our emotions can hit us hard and quickly get overwhelming. We may react in ways that aren’t helpful or aren’t consistent with what we actually want.

Learning to manage emotions doesn’t mean you won’t get angry with that friend, lose your cool, or struggle to shake off heavy feelings. It means building the ability to notice what’s happening, create space, and decide what you want to do next in that experience.

What Does Managing Your Emotions Actually Look Like?

If something makes me feel better, does that mean it’s helping me manage my emotions?

Not necessarily.

Everyone has different ways of dealing with difficult emotions. Some strategies help us create enough space to process what we’re feeling and respond more intentionally. Others give us short-term relief but create more problems later. They may feel like they’re helping us manage the emotion when we’re actually avoiding it.

When Coping Brings Relief but Creates More Problems

Some strategies may reduce emotional discomfort in the moment but aren’t useful to us over time. This might look like:

Using alcohol or other substances to numb what you’re feeling
Self-harm as a way to cope with overwhelming emotions
Withdrawing from difficult situations or immediately cutting people off rather than addressing what happened
Escalating to verbal or physical aggression
Spending hours scrolling or doomscrolling on social media to avoid what you’re feeling while other responsibilities get neglected

These behaviors can create temporary distance from the emotion, but they don’t necessarily help us understand or work through what’s happening.

Healthier Ways to Make Space for Your Emotions

More useful strategies give an emotion’s intensity space to come down. As the intensity decreases, you can better understand what you’re feeling and choose how you want to respond. Who doesn’t want that?

This might mean walking away from a heated conversation and returning when you’re calmer. It could mean getting adequate sleep so you’re less vulnerable to feeling overwhelmed or easily triggered. You might notice the thoughts that show up when you’re upset and write them down in a journal instead of reacting immediately. When you review those thoughts, you may realize they don’t represent what you actually feel or want.

Breathing exercises or meditation can also help you slow down and notice what is happening in your body. Check out this quick 90 second breath reset to help bring down reactions. And sometimes, you may need to bring what you’re noticing into therapy, where you have more space to understand the patterns underneath your reactions.

The goal isn’t to get rid of your emotions. It’s to experience them better without letting the intensity of the moment decide what happens next.

How Can Therapy Help You Manage Your Emotions?

Therapy can help you develop emotional regulation skills so you can make healthier decisions, communicate more effectively, and feel more connected in your relationships.

Many therapeutic approaches can support this work. One is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). CBT can help you understand the connection between your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. You can begin to recognize what triggers strong emotional reactions, notice the thoughts that come up in those moments, and practice different ways of responding.

At Kensho Psychotherapy Services, our therapists use evidence-based approaches to help you better understand their emotional patterns and build skills for managing difficult emotions.

If your emotions regularly feel like they’re “too much,” you’ve been told you’re “too sensitive,” or it feels like your emotions control you instead of the other way around, you can learn skills to change how you show up in your life. If you’re looking for support, it might be time to book a therapy appointment and have a safe space to better understand your emotional patterns and practice new ways of responding. Are you ready? Because we are ready to support you.

Learning these skills doesn’t mean you never feel angry, anxious, sad, disappointed, or overwhelmed. It means getting better at understanding what you’re feeling, making space for it, and deciding what you want to do next. That is powerful.

Article written by Intern Illiana Townsend, with support from Amanda Fludd, LCSW-R

Kensho Psychotherapy Services provides psychotherapy in Lynbrook, Nassau County, and online throughout New York.

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Corporate Mental Health Mental Health Growth and Leadership Podcast • leadership May 6, 2025 By AMANDA FLUDD 0 Comments

Could Grace Be the Missing Link in Your Leadership Journey

Ever caught yourself thinking, “I should be further by now?”

Maybe you’re a powerhouse behind the scenes at a major brand. Or you’re the therapist, coach, or creative expert building your next season with heart and hustle. Either way—if you’ve ever questioned your pace, your progress, or your power… this is for you.

Because here’s the truth: being behind is a lie when you’re building something that aligns with your purpose.

And in this season? Grace—not guilt—is your growth strategy.

The Guilt That Hides in High Performance...

Let’s be honest. High-achieving black women are masters at pushing through.

We lead. We build. We mother. We solve the problem before it’s spoken. And we do it with excellence. But somewhere behind the accolades, the calendar invites, the late-night client calls or pitch decks… is a quiet voice that says:

“You should have created that thing already.”
“You need to be more consistent.”
“You’re late to the game.”

That voice? It sounds like discipline or encouragement. But it’s often shame wearing a business suit and comfy shoes.

However, to reach a higher version of ourselves, we must shift certain narratives and release shame and self-criticism.

Why Grace Is a Leadership Skill

In our latest episode of the Grace, Growth & Business podcast, we spoke about the tension between wanting to move faster and needing to move with intention.

We talk about:

How to reset without shame after starting and stopping (yes, even your podcast or content plan )
The myth of being behind and how it quietly undermines women of color in leadership
Why guilt blocks growth—and how grace unlocks sustainable success

This isn’t about giving up structure. It’s about choosing self-compassion over self-punishment so your growth becomes deeper, not just louder.

Your Business Growth Is Personal Growth

Whether you’re a coach, therapist, entrepreneur, consultant—or a corporate leader building your next chapter—guilt is one of the most common emotional roadblocks I see in brilliant women. And I want to slow it down and name something for you:

Guilt says, “I did something wrong.”
It carries an invisible weight, a subtle sense of failure. It whispers that you're responsible for everything going off track—your timeline, your goals, your team, your family.
And that quiet sense of over-responsibility? It often comes from a deeper story.

So when guilt shows up, I’m always curious:

What did life teach you that made you become the woman who feels responsible for everyone and everything? Or WHO told you to carry that guilt?
What experiences, expectations, or identities are being triggered underneath the surface?

Because guilt, when left unchecked, can become a psychological prison. It stalls momentum. It turns every missed deadline into a character flaw. It locks you into cycles of overthinking and shame. And most dangerously? It convinces you that grace is a luxury instead of a leadership skill.

One Powerful Way to Practice Grace (That Might Just Change Everything)

Can I coach you for a second? I'm going to imagine you are nodding yes and offer you some questions to help you rethink a few things.

Let’s build on the reflection I gave in the podcast:
Instead of just asking “What is this moment teaching me?” — try dialing it back even further.

Ask yourself: “Why do I feel this way in the first place?”
It may not be clear at first—but take a second. Was it something external that triggered you? Did you miss an opportunity, fall short on your own goals, or say something in a meeting that didn’t land the way you wanted?

Now ask: What telenovela episode did your mind create around that moment?
(Yes, I said what I said. Because the drama our minds can invent? Whew.!

What was your interpretation of the event?
Did it mean you’re not good enough? Irresponsible? Not ready?

That interpretation is gold. It’s the script that’s activating your guilt. It’s the message that got embedded in your system and started running the show.

So here’s the deeper reflection:
Is that belief actually true—or is it just an old story you’re still carrying?
This is hard to do alone, but it’s where the shift happens. When you learn how to tune into your emotional responses and examine the why behind them, that’s when real change begins. That’s how you stop reacting from guilt and start leading with clarity or what you value.

And inside the latest Grace, Growth & Leadership episode, I walk you through more of those aligned actions—what it looks like to actually move forward without shame weighing you down.
Catch it on YouTube or your favorite podcast platform.

The Bottom Line

You don’t need to hustle for grace—you need to give yourself permission to receive it.

You’re not behind. You’re evolving.
You’re not scattered. You’re recalibrating.

And if you’re building a business, leading a team, or preparing to share your voice more boldly—grace isn’t optional. It’s the foundation.

Does This Speak to You?

If you’re tired of the internal struggle between self and expectations, reach out and let's chat about how I can support you.

For my business builders, we also have an excellent space for you, the Couch to Business Collective—a membership community designed for women of color who are ready to lead differently, increase their visibility in their business, and work on a few emotional roadblocks along the way — we've got you.

Learn More + Visit the Collective

What To Do When You’re Tired of Holding It Together

If you’re the one everyone relies on—the fixer, the achiever, the strong friend—but inside you’re feeling drained and stuck, know this: being stuck isn’t a sign of strength. It’s a signal that it’s time to make a change.

In the episode we put out this week for the Grace, Growth & Leadership podcast, we explore the emotional and practical aspects of recognizing when it’s time to shift. It’s about granting yourself permission to evolve, redefine success on your own terms, and move forward with intention.

Sometimes, change can feel hard because it stirs up deep, uncomfortable feelings

Sometimes, pivoting can feel hard because it stirs up deep, uncomfortable feelings — not necessarily because the change itself is wrong, but because of the internal stories we’ve been carrying for years. Stories about expectations. Stories about how success “should” look. Real fears about what others might think if you step into something different.
Often, we wait for external validation before making changes, thinking we need someone else’s approval to move forward.

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But the truth is: real growth begins when you grant yourself permission — permission to pivot, to pause, to choose a new path.

This self-granted permission becomes the catalyst for movement, for momentum, and for renewed energy.

What Grace Can Look Like in the Midst of Change

One powerful shift?

Practice celebrating small pivots as wins — not just the big ones.
Instead of waiting until you've fully "arrived" somewhere new, acknowledge every decision that nudges you toward alignment. Each conversation you have, each boundary you set, each step you take outside your comfort zone — that is progress.

We get more into that and so much more in this week’s episode on YouTube and the Grace, Growth & Leadership podcast. 🎙️✨

🎧 Listen to the Podcast Episode

If parts of this feel especially challenging on a deeper level — if you're navigating change, grief, identity shifts, or leadership fatigue — we’re here to support you.
Connect with us for therapy if you need personalized care.

Or if you’re looking for a likeminded space for women leading their businesses while developing themselves, the Couch to Business Collective is a great place to begin. 💬
👉 Join the Collective Here

Your next chapter isn’t about pushing harder — it’s about pivoting with purpose.

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High-Functioning, Tired, and Still Standing: Mental Health Quotes for Black Women

If you’re a high-achieving woman who looks like she has it all together but feels exhausted on the inside, this is for you.

You’ve earned the degrees. You’ve built a career. You keep the house running, the meetings flowing, and your people cared for. You’re the one others count on—the one who gets things done, holds the family together, and stays calm under pressure.

But here’s the part no one sees:

Your body feels everything your mouth never says.

The tightness in your chest. The tension in your jaw.The anxious energy that drives your success… and drains your spirit.

This collection of mental health quotes for Black women was created to name what you’ve been holding—and offer you a moment to breathe. Whether you’re navigating burnout, grief, anxiety, or just the invisible weight of being “the strong one,” these quotes for high-achieving Black women are meant to be a soft landing.

Because even the most high-achieving woman needs a safe space. And therapy for Black women isn’t just about healing, it’s about reclaiming peace.

Quotes That Say the Quiet Part Out Loud

“You can have it all. Just not all at once.” — Oprah Winfrey

“You deserve care without earning it, rest without guilt, and healing without apology.”— Amanda Fludd, LCSW-R

“I show up as a whole human being. I don’t pretend to be perfect. That is freedom.”— Tracee Ellis Ross

“Rest is a form of resistance.” — Tricia Hersey, The Nap Ministry

“Just because you carry it well doesn’t mean it’s not heavy.”

— Psychotherapist, Amanda Fludd, LCSW-R

“I’m tired of seeing women being labeled as difficult when we’re just honest.”— Rihanna

“The work is never done, but the work is never more important than your well-being.”— Beyoncé

“You are not selfish for choosing you. Being a whole woman is putting on your big girl panties and giving yourself the yes”. – Amanda Fludd, LCSW-R

“When I dare to be powerful… it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid.”— Audre Lorde

“You don’t have to be anything but yourself to be worthy.” — Viola Davis

🖤 These Quotes Resonate for a Reason…

If one of these quotes pulled something out of you—maybe it’s because you’ve been carrying more than anyone realizes.

Sometimes, we don’t even realize how much we’re holding until we stop performing long enough to feel it.

Journal Reflection:

Which quote made you pause—and why? Write for five minutes without editing yourself. Let your truth be messy. Let it be yours.

Therapy for Women Who Are Ready to Find Peace

Whether you’re burned out, anxious, or feeling numb from years of overfunctioning, Kensho Psychotherapy offers a space where you don’t have to explain your strength or hide your softness. We not just offer regular therapy, but an annual retreat for BIPOC women who need to find themselves again.

You get to show up without your title. Without your schedule. Without the pressure to hold it all together.

You’ve been everything for everyone. And now? It’s your turn.

Our practice, Kensho Psychotherapy, specializes in trauma, anxiety, and burnout recovery for women in leadership and high-impact roles. You don’t have to navigate this alone.

👉 Click here to explore therapy options, or book your first session today

➡️ Keep Going: Daily Power Practices for Women Who Lead

➡️ Additional Read: Why Old Wounds Still Hurt

Final Practice

Let’s get intentional: What’s one belief you need to reclaim or release so you can lead with more freedom?

Please share it in the comments. And share this blog with a powerhouse woman who needs these reminders today. 🖤

Written by Amanda Fludd, psychotherapist, confidence and visibility coach for black women, and founder of Kensho Psychotherapy Services. She helps high-achieving women step into their power, overcome self-doubt, and lead with confidence. Please leave your thoughts below, we would love to read them.

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