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What Is an EMDR Intensive? How It May Help With Anxiety

There are lots of different ways to heal, and one type of therapy that I don’t think is talked about enough is EMDR. EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. It was originally developed to help people heal from trauma, but we are also seeing how EMDR may help people work through other concerns like anxiety, emotional overwhelm, and some of the negative beliefs we have about ourselves.

I think this is especially important for Black women because we can get really good at pushing through things. You may know all the coping skills, know that you are capable, and even understand where some of your patterns come from, but still have this feeling of I’m not enough or I have to get everything right.

Sometimes knowing something logically doesn’t necessarily change how it feels in your body or how you react when something triggers you.

 

There is also growing research looking at EMDR beyond PTSD. A 2026 meta-analysis looked at 40 randomized controlled trials with 2,064 participants and found that EMDR was associated with reductions in anxiety and depression symptoms (Ajele, Ramonkga, & Idemudia, 2026). The researchers also noted considerable differences across the studies, and EMDR’s advantage over other established psychotherapies remains less certain.

This research is important because people often hear EMDR and automatically think it is only for major trauma, when people may also be dealing with anxiety and emotional reactions that continue to get in their way.

What Is an EMDR Intensive?

An EMDR intensive is a more concentrated, focused way of doing EMDR therapy, and it can be a magical experience when done with a trained EMDR Therapist. Traditional EMDR might happen once a week or every other week, and sessions may be around 45โ€“60 minutes. With an intensive, we have more time to really focus on the issue you came in to work on. I like to think of it like going to the gym. Yes, you can go to the gym for 45 minutes once a week and still see some results, but when you go consistently, or have the opportunity to take a focused class that asks more of you, maybe has more guidance, or is so dialed in to an area that you see better results.

It’s similar to what happens with an intensive. Instead of spreading the work out over many shorter sessions, you get a longer block of time to stay focused on the issue you’re trying to address.

At Kensho Psychotherapy, we might do several 90-minute sessions closer together, a three-hour intensive, six hours, or even create a more retreat-style experience over a few days. It really depends on the needs of the individual and what makes sense for them.

Black woman sitting in therapy office thinking about EMDR intensive trauma therapy

How Is an EMDR Intensive Different From Weekly Therapy?

One of the things I really like about the intensive format is that we don’t lose as much time to all the other fires that can happen in weekly therapy as you navigate life.

Maybe you couldn’t make therapy last week, something happened at work this week, or now there’s a family situation you need to talk about. All of that is important, but before you know it, you haven’t gotten back to the original thing you wanted to address, like why do I keep sabotaging my progress, the feeling of “stuckness,” despite being in therapy, or the fears that quickly activate as you step into challenging situations. Sometimes the busyness of life can become distractions.

With an intensive, we already know what we’re coming in to focus on, and we’ve taken the time to prepare you for the work. That gives us more uninterrupted time to stay with the issue instead of having to stop and come back to it another week and hope to spend some time on it.

That focused time is one of the things that makes intensives different from doing EMDR or traditional weekly therapy.

Can EMDR Intensives Help With Anxiety?

You may already know how to challenge an anxious thought, practice grounding, take a breath, or remind yourself that you’re capable. But when something triggers you, those tools can suddenly feel much harder to access.

EMDR may help us look at some of the experiences, emotional reactions, or negative beliefs underneath that response. For example, the anxiety you feel before making a mistake at work may be connected to a deeper belief such as If I get this wrong, I’m a failure, This will go horribly wrong, or I have to be perfect to be safe or accepted.

Sometimes you can’t affirm your way out of an emotional experience or tell yourself to stop being anxious or worried. Your system just won’t respond. It needs a heavy duty approach to work with the experiences and reactions connected to those beliefs driving your anxiety.

So yes, EMDR can help with anxiety, not just trauma or PTSD. It can also support people struggling with anxiety, overwhelm, overthinking, perfectionism, or similar negative beliefs about themselves.

Are EMDR Intensives for Everyone?

EMDR intensives aren’t for everyone. It’s a good idea to start with a consultation so a provider can help you assess where you are emotionally, what you want to work on, and whether this is the right approach for you. Remember, there is more than one way to heal, and we want to find what is right for you.

The good thing about intensives is that you don’t have to be in regular therapy with us to do an intensive.

For example, you might already be working with a CBT therapist and have really good tools for managing anxiety, but find that when you get triggered, it is still really hard to access those tools. An intensive may focus on some of the experiences or beliefs underneath that reaction and reduce the reactivity there. That emotional space the work creates often makes work with other providers or modalities more accessible. It’s a good adjunct to that work, if you will.

If you already have a therapist you trust, you don’t have to switch therapists to work with us. You can come to Kensho specifically for the EMDR intensive and continue working with your regular therapist afterward.

Have more questions? In the video below, I answer what people ask most before booking: whether an EMDR intensive is worth it, how it differs from weekly therapy, whether you can keep your current therapist, who it tends to be a good fit for, and why focused, dedicated time can work well for busy professionals working through anxiety, trauma, and patterns that keep getting in the way.

EMDR Intensives at Kensho Psychotherapy Services

At Kensho Psychotherapy Services, we offer EMDR therapy and EMDR intensives in different formats. We only schedule a limited number of intensives each month and start with a free consultation so we can learn more about what you want to address and determine whether an intensive may be a good fit.

We offer EMDR in person in Lynbrook, Nassau County, New York, and online for clients throughout New York State. We can also talk with you about a more customized intensive experience if you are traveling in to NY for the work.

If you’re curious about EMDR or feel like you’ve done a lot of talking and understanding but something still isn’t shifting, an intensive may be worth exploring.

Learn more about individual therapy and EMDR services at Kensho Psychotherapy Services: https://amandafludd.com/therapyintensive/

Contributor: Amanda Fludd, LCSW-R, EMDR Therapistย 

Reference

Ajele, K. W., Ramonkga, B. N., & Idemudia, E. S. (2026). Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing outcomes in depression and anxiety: Evidence from a meta-analysis. Journal of EMDR Practice and Research, 20, Article 0033. https://doi.org/10.34133/jemdr.0033

Fighting Your Anxiety Can Make It Feel Worseโ€” What to Try Instead.

Dealing with anxiety can be incredibly frustrating and feel like a major inconvenience in your life. It’s normal to find yourself thinking, “Why can’t I just relax?” or “Why can’t I stop being this way and just be normal?”

When we’re overwhelmed by anxiety, our knee-jerk reaction is often to become angry, frustrated, ashamed, or critical of ourselves for feeling that way. We start ruminating over what’s “wrong” with us, fearing our reactions, or wishing we could simply turn the anxiety off. The problem is that none of those responses make the anxiety go away, and it often makes it worse. That’s when many people unknowingly find themselves in a fight with their own anxiety

Why Fighting Anxiety Can Make It Feel Worse

Anxiety is hard enough on its own. What often makes it even harder is the fight that begins inside of you once it shows up. Instead of responding with curiosity, we often respond with criticism. We tell ourselves we shouldn’t feel this way, try to force the anxiety to disappear, or become frustrated that we can’t simply “calm down.” Before long, we’re no longer just dealing with anxiety, we’re battling ourselves for having it.

You might notice you’re caught in that fight if your inner dialogue sounds like:

  • “I should be able to handle this.”
  • “Why am I always like this?”
  • “This isn’t even a big deal.”
  • “I need to stop feeling this way.”

Or maybe it shows up in your actions instead. You avoid making the phone call. You stay inside because going out feels overwhelming. You procrastinate on the task you’ve been thinking about all week. You replay conversations in your head, search for reassurance, or spend hours trying to figure out why you feel this way. It all makes sense: you’re trying to feel better, but that’s why this fight is so exhausting. The more you argue with your anxiety, the more attention you give it. The more attention you give it, the bigger it begins to feel.

Before you know it, you’re no longer just anxious… you’re anxious about being anxious

The Role of Radical Acceptance in Managing Anxiety

One skill that can help you respond differently is radical acceptance.

Radical acceptance means acknowledging what is happening in the present moment without trying to control it. It is the practice of recognizing, โ€œThis is what I am feeling right now,โ€ even if you do not like it and want things to be different.

At first, accepting anxiety may sound counterproductive, but noticing what’s happening, giving it a name, deciding not to channel your energy into criticism, or what is out of your control, actually helps you to find the control button in your life.

Radical acceptance says I notice this thing happening to me, and I don’t have to be hard on myself for having this experience. It welcomes the experience as an opportunity for learning or adjustments. It doesn’t mean you agree with the experience, but it allows you to stop creatively running from it.

You might say:

โ€œI feel anxious right now. I do not like this feeling, but I do not have to attack myself for having it.โ€

That response creates more space than telling yourself: โ€œI cannot feel like this.โ€

Acceptance Does Not Mean Approval

As we said, accepting your anxiety does not mean that you enjoy it, or want it to remain in a way that continues to interrupt your life. You can accept that you feel anxious and still:

  • use coping strategies
  • leave an unhealthy situation
  • set a boundary
  • ask for support
  • book that therapy appointment to address it
  • work toward reducing your symptoms
  • make changes in your life

We are simply encouraging you to find your healing and stay in the moment without adding shame, blame, or an internal battle. That typically is what makes the experience of anxiety worse.

Coping Statements for Anxiety

Practicing radical acceptance can look like using coping statements, which help ground you in the present moment and remind you that you are in control and able to handle difficult situations and strong emotions. It won’t magically erase anxiety, but it can help you respond to it with more balance and self-compassion.

You might try:

  • โ€œThis feeling is uncomfortable, but I can get through it.โ€
  • โ€œI can feel anxious and still deal with this situation.โ€
  • โ€œI do not have to solve everything in this moment.โ€
  • โ€œI cannot change what has already happened, but I can choose my next step.โ€
  • โ€œFighting this feeling is making it harder. I can relax and breathe and let it float away without judging myself.โ€
  • โ€œI accept this moment as it is.”

Choose one statement that feels believable to you and practice it often.  For example, saying, โ€œEverything is fine,โ€ may not help when you do not feel fine. Saying, โ€œI feel overwhelmed, but I can take one small step,โ€ may feel more honest and grounding.

How to Practice Radical Acceptance When Anxiety Shows Up

The next time you notice your anxiety increasing, try pausing before immediately attempting to push it away.

Start by naming what is happening: โ€œMy chest feels tight. My thoughts are moving quickly. I am worried that something will go wrong.โ€

Then separate what you are experiencing from the story your anxiety may be creating: โ€œI am feeling afraid, but that does not automatically mean something bad will happen.”

Next, if you want deeper insights, ask yourself:

  • What is true in this moment?
  • What part of this situation can I control?
  • What am I trying to force or change right now?
  • What would be a supportive next step?

Your next step may be to take several slow breaths, step outside, write down your thoughts, delay a decision until you feel more grounded, or reach out to someone you trust.

We are not trying to be perfectly calm. Your goal is to bring the feelings down a few degrees and reduce any self-criticism for having a human emotional response. This will create more space for navigating the situation skillfully.

How Anxiety Therapy Can Help

Therapy is a good place to help you put all this together and improve the skills needed to navigate anxiety. It can be difficult to identify your anxiety patterns on your own, or consistently be skillful, especially when they have been present for a long time.

Therapy can help you better understand:

  • what situations tend to activate your anxiety
  • how anxiety shows up in your thoughts and body
  • whether past experiences are influencing current reactions
  • which coping strategies work best for you
  • how to respond without becoming overwhelmed by shame or self-criticism

At Kensho Psychotherapy Services in Nassau County, our therapists help clients explore the experiences beneath anxiety while developing practical ways to manage overthinking, physical tension, avoidance, and intense emotions.

Therapy is not only about learning how to calm down. It can also help you understand why certain situations feel so difficult and build a more compassionate, effective relationship with yourself.

Final Thoughts

Nobody enjoys feeling anxious. However, constantly fighting, judging, or criticizing yourself for having anxiety often makes the experience more intense.

Radical acceptance offers a different approach. It allows you to acknowledge what you are feeling without giving the anxiety complete control over what you do next.

You can feel anxious and still take care of yourself. You can feel uncomfortable and still make a thoughtful decision. You can accept what is happening in the present moment while continuing to work toward healing and change.

Kensho Psychotherapy Services offers anxiety therapy and mental health counseling for adults and teens navigating overthinking, stress, trauma, relationship concerns, and longstanding emotional patterns. Our practice is located in Lynbrook, New York, and we offer online therapy to clients throughout New York State if you can’t make it in person.

To learn more about anxiety therapy or schedule a consultation with Kensho Psychotherapy Services, click Book Appointment.

This piece was written with the help of Mental Health Intern Illiana Townsend, who is passionate about helping others better understand anxiety and develop healthier ways of responding to it.


If you or someone you know is experiencing a mental health crisis, call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. If you believe there is an immediate danger to yourself or someone else, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency department.


Frequently Asked Questions

Does accepting anxiety make it worse?
Accepting anxiety does not mean focusing on it or encouraging it to grow. Radical acceptance can help reduce the additional stress caused by fighting, judging, or fearing the anxiety itself.

Can therapy help me understand what triggers my anxiety?
Yes. Therapy can help you identify situations, thoughts, body sensations, and past experiences that may contribute to anxiety. A therapist can also help you develop coping strategies that fit how anxiety specifically shows up in your life.

Do you accept insurance for therapy?

Yes. Kensho Psychotherapy Services accepts several insurance for therapy, including Aetna, 1199SEIU, Oxford, UnitedHealthcare (UHC), Cigna, Northwell Direct, and Lyra EAP. We also welcome private-pay (self-pay) clients.

If you’re unsure whether your insurance is accepted or have questions about using your benefits, we’d be happy to help you understand your options before scheduling your first appointment. Contact us at 347-868-7813 or click HERE, and we’ll guide you through the process.

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